I'm working on Rosemarie & Terry's wedding today. Isn't Rosie pretty? :)
Were you married in a church or other religious structure? Were you married by someone of religious authority? Do you and your significant other share the same denomination of faith? If you do, were there any conflicts regarding who the ceremony would be performed by or where, even though you share the exact religion? If you don't share the same faith, how did you come to find peaceful ground between you? How will you raise your children? What if one partner was an atheist or agnostic and the other a devout Catholic? Have you been in that place before, in another relationship, or in the one you are in now? Was that a deal breaker or manageable? How do two people, raised in different families, with different faiths, even if they are similar- Baptist and Lutheran for instance- both Christian, and yet, different... How do two people find peace over these hot-button topics both in planning their wedding, and their marriage, and for some of you, in the raising of your children?
For me, I go back and forth and side to side on this issue constantly. My religious beliefs have ebbed and flowed drastically over the years and I'm still trying to find my "place," and what I want both for myself and my children. I do tend to be unwilling in raising a child in something other than what I was raised in (Lutheran), although I'm not sure why. It may be familiarity and the comfort in that, but I don't really know. Maybe I just want to "win," that one. For ceremony, I've at times wished my childhood pastor to travel to wherever I got married and preside over the union. Other times I have reflected on positive officiants I've encountered in this business. Particularly Rachel & Will's officiant: it was a British woman with a heavy accent- the way she said everything just sounded magical. She was solemn, but happy and pleasant. She just seemed to be the perfect balance of everything. She also included a CHOCOLATE TRUFFLE exchange during the ceremony- the bride and groom fed each other bites of their favorite truffles. Mmmm, now that's a service I can really get behind and support! And other times I have thought of the value of having someone, a close friend or family member performing the ceremony. There is no one that knows you better than someone that is in your daily life. Could you consent to participating in a ceremony which is not of your religion, but is your mate's? (For example, a Catholic groom and his "spiritual" fiance marrying in a full service Catholic mass, promising to raise their children Catholic... )
Ladies & Gents?